Read this article today (check thegrio.com) about black women and marriage. All the while through undergrad and to the day I graduated I wondered if I was sentencing myself to a life a singlehood. What do black men, or any men for that matter, perceive of black women with degrees? Do they think we are too aggressive or won’t have anything to converse about? I like discussing ratchetness sometimes! I’m just saying. Haha. But seriously, all the black women in higher education as far as I can remember were SINGLE. With the exception of a few. But were they single by choice or by no fault of their own…? I wonder.
Why do black men feel the need to not express their emotions? This has been an age-old debate over black men & their emotions and how it’s somehow linked to the stripping of manhood during the enslavement era. However, we are in 2012. The apparent suicide of OJ Murdock (a NFL player) shocked the people around him. No one knew he was depressed or had any problems in his life. It made me think, why didn’t he just TELL someone he was depressed or having issues? What’s so taboo about that? Was he worried about not seeming in control of his emotions? According to CNN, he was riding the bench for a while and they seem to imply that this was the maybe one of things bothering him. You know, one time, it took this guy a year and a half to tell me he loved me after I had pretty much kinda known it all along. But he refused to show it, admit it, whatever. I had another ex-boyfriend who was on the verge of depression after he had kids and I didn’t want to be with him anymore. So my question remains, when will the brothers start showing some EMOTION…?